If I could go back in time and speak to myself as a new mom of 28 years, this is what I would say: It’s not just that your baby will be born, but you too! You’ll experience a rebirth of your own as a mom. It’ll be your spiritual journey from maiden to mother.
I would have told myself as a new mom:
Congratulations my sweet, it’s a miracle what you have achieved! Your body has changed enormously in the last 9 months. Your body and your soul have experienced the arrival of a new soul. It’s all a miracle and a huge challenge at the same time. It feels as if nothing, but damn it, nothing is the same as it was before you got pregnant! Your body feels like it’s changing every second. Your feelings are an emotional rollercoaster. Not only is your relationship with your body upside down, but also your relationship with your partner and your friends.
I would have told myself as a new mom:
You are right when you feel like you don’t even exist. From one day to the next, you are just a mother, your whole existence is focused on this being who is dependent on you, whose whole world you are. You are going through a huge transformation from a person who is only responsible for themselves to a person who is responsible for, protects and nurtures another living being.
I would have told myself as a new mom:
You will get back to your own interests and passions. Don’t worry, the time for you will come again. Enjoy the time you spend with your baby and toddler, enjoy it because it will pass. You’ll move on to other things, and before you know it, those other things will take up so much of your time and attention that you will no longer have that magical, protected, intimate relationship with your child that you had in the beginning.
I would have told myself as a new mom:
The stretch marks and the extra twenty kilos are nothing you need to lose quickly, because they are the medal of your wonderfully insanely great body producing a new living being. I would have told myself as a new mom that being beautiful is a choice you make, and I would have been a beautiful, curvy mom with proud pregnancy marks and a miracle baby in my arms.
I would have told myself as a new mom:
You’re a role model for your child! Hatred of your own body can be passed down through generations. You can stop hating your body this generation by accepting, appreciating, and loving your wonderful curvy body NOW for giving you this child!
Thank you, my belly, for being so elastic and not bursting when a human grows inside you! Thank you so much for storing up all that fat! Now I’ll be able to keep breastfeeding my baby even when there’s hardly any food around. Thank you, my breasts, for performing the miracle of feeding another living being! Thank you, you wonderfully curvy, soft body!
I would have told myself as a new mom:
It’s not just about being fit and healthy during pregnancy, then quickly removing all traces of pregnancy and childbirth, adjusting your crown and getting back to work and business as usual.
You’re going through such a beautiful change, from princess to queen. You can embrace and affirm this transformation and use it as an opportunity to put on your queenly crown, wake up, and realize that you are now in charge of an entire kingdom. If I could offer one piece of advice to myself when I was a new mom, it would be to see this change as a chance to realign my life and make my dreams a reality.
If I could offer one piece of advice to my younger self, to the new mom I once was, it would be this:
Now is the perfect time to break free from all those expectations others have for you! Now is the time to do what YOU want and what YOU expect from yourself and your life.
Oh, honey, I know you’re in for a hurricane, but I’m here for you. It’s not just your baby that will be reborn, but you too. And you’ll make it through this rebirth just fine. You will survive being reborn.
I’m sending you so much love!
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